I have a 14 year old, high functioning autistic, sweet girl. I am hoping his obsession for minecraft will outweigh his desire to swear and be abusive to us.
#AUTISM MELTDOWN SWEARING FULL#
I am trying now to take his IPAD away for a full day now and he isn't getting it back until he can go a full day without hurting or hitting either of us. We have continuous discussions with him about his bad language and aggressive outburst, praise him always when we see good behaviour etc. He frowns at me if I get cross and am sharp with my son, because we are supposed to be these super human calm people, however sometimes it is the firm voice which gets through to my son for unacceptable behaviour. the thing is I know I can curb my son's swearing and behaviour on my own when it is just the two of us, but not when my other half is there. We have had various conversations with a clinical psychologist about this and she always has supported my firmer stance on certain unacceptable behaviours such as physical violence.
#AUTISM MELTDOWN SWEARING HOW TO#
I don't know how to retrain my husband to stop undermining me. and also a son who is consistently disrespectful to both of us, but I have more control when other half not there. I know I have two problems, one is my other half being inconsistent and undermining me, but he just will not listen and infuriates me. This gets me angry and I lost it with my husband yesterday which means I am not setting a good role model either, but I had been bitten hard and yet I was made out to be the bad guy whilst son needs to understand that biting is wrong. I know we have different parenting styles, but things definitely get worse when other half doesn't back me up or step back. I am very strict with my son and take the IPAD away from him for two hours when he swears or is abusive, Husband tends to lecture him for a long time, which I know is too many words for our son to follows. I am not saying my son would be perfect on his own with me, but he might push it on one day of the week, but then would behave for rest of holidays as he knows my boundaries, but not dads, who he spends less time with. We have just come back from a weeks holiday and my husband always seems to make things worse by not being consistent in his discipline and our son constantly picks up on this and hopes to take sides against me his mum with his dad. This then encourages our son to be even more abusive in his language.
I screamed because it hurt so much and husband comes in and tells me off for leaving my arm there to be bit. He bit me yesterday because the IPAD wasn't working. He now constantly swears at home and if ever we ask him to do something he doesn't want to do or doesn't like he says F U.etc. Most of the kids there have behaviour issues and he has learnt a lot of swear words. Reward him with lots of praise and a special privilege if he goes an entire day without using any profanity.My son recently started a short stay school where he is doing well. Let him know you notice when he behaves appropriately. Use positive reinforcement to encourage your child to demonstrate good behavior. Asperger's kids, in particular, often find other people’s behavior irritating and therefore may respond inappropriately.
Kids with autism generally have difficulty controlling their emotions. Read stories together and role-play various situations to teach your child how to behave in stressful situations. Give her examples of other words she can use instead to express how she is feeling. Point out that using profanity is unacceptable behavior. If she curses under her breath and you hear her, let her know you heard what she said. Make it clear that if he says just one curse word, he will lose the privilege. Explain that he can spend time on the trampoline as long as he doesn’t swear. If he likes to spend time each day jumping on a trampoline, take the privilege away for that day if he uses bad language. For example, take away privileges on days when your child uses curse words. If you aren’t consistent, your child receives mixed messages, which can be confusing.Ĭhoose consequences that are fair and reasonable. Consistency is the basis for discipline, notes the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. Like other unacceptable behavior, give your child consequences for using curse words and then follow through. Make your child accountable for her actions so that she learns appropriate behavior.
Overreacting when your child curses could actually make the behavior worse. Give yourself a momentary time-out before dealing with the situation.
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